you can be the one who you admire most

You can be the one you want
There’s no doubt that you can be the one who you admire most.

I was very happy when some girls told me: “Wow, I admire you very much, you can stand out for being yourself with self-confidence and determination."

Yes, I am pretty sure that you also can be the one who you want to be.

a low self-esteem teenager
When I was a teenager, with low self-esteem, I thought I was an ugly duckling because I was not a good student in my class.

I used to hate studying so much as I could never recite exactly the same sentences from textbooks as what teachers requested me to do every day.

Then I completely stuck on that point for many years, even my Dad was so ashamed to attend my parents’ meeting.

Obviously, I was not on the good students' list.

Then I dropped out of the school at an early age,cheap oakleys, meanwhile, I realized that I could never ever return back to school even I really really wanna to in a couple of years' time. How miserable !!! Stupid school policy!!!

I admired SanMao in my 20s
In my 20s, I admired one popular author from TaiWan, her name is: SanMao.

One reason I liked her as she’s also dropped school early, and then she’s pursuing her dream as a writer.

Her creative life being overseas was so interesting and amazing, which touched my heart so much.

Then I told myself I wish one day I could have the same lifestyle as SanMao for writing down books regarding traveling and life experience from communicating with friends all over the world. How fascinating !!

An impossible dream
But that was totally impossible for a girl like me from mainland China, studying overseas was not popular at all in the early of 1990s.

If Aussies you know the history of China, then you will understand that it was such a big dream at that time, it is just like Aussies you decide to move to the Mars, which is very unrealistic.

But I still held a dream as there’s a light ahead: my Aunt was in the USA.

Taught myself English
The first thing, I decided to learn English so that I could take TOEFL test.

My English was almost zero as my previous education was crap.

Even I didn’t know how to pronounce English properly because I used to write down Chinese under English sentences at school.

Therefore, I bought an English pronunciation book and tape record. I taught myself how to pronounce properly by looking up the dictionary for each vocabulary.

To start with, I could never move on as I failed over and over and over.

But I didn’t give up because there’s a dream ahead, if I stopped learning English, my life would be so meaningless.

Achieved the dream in my 30s
Eventually, I achieved the dream in my 30s- to be an overseas student.

Now, my dream has almost come true, I have experienced exciting life which was just like what SanMao wrote in her books.

From this year, I am writing my own stories, though I don’t have as many readers as her, but eventually I got started.

Now it’s my turn, someone else is admiring my lifestyle.

One thing I can confirm you: yes, you can, please never ever give up; you can be the one you like.

It is possible as long as you believe you can and start doing it.

learn how to dance-salsa and buchata
In my 20s, at dance parties, I was the shy one who only sat and watched people dancing, though I admired them so much, but I thought I was stupid who could never dance very well.

In my 40s, I enrolled Salsa dance lessons, I went to the classes once or twice a week and attended dance parties twice a month.

Now, I have very much self-confidence for dancing with handsome guys, even I can teach those younger ones who are at beginner level.

swim with kids
Again, in Australia, most people can swim very well, I have never got a chance to learn when I was a child.

Therefore, I joined beginner level swimming classes for adults,cheap jerseys, I felt a bit awkward when I had classes with little kids in the same swimming pool, but never mind, who cares.

We can start learning new things at any age.

Now, some young people even admire me as they can only do breaststroke, however, I can do freestyle as well.

maintain a good body shape
After Uni, I was becoming lazy and I was shocked as I suddenly gained 4KGs by being a couch potato, lying on the sofa, eating potato chips and watching TV.

But I do admire ladies who can keep fit with nice body shape in their 40s, therefore, I made a decision and then I attended Gym for 4 years.

Now I am doing walking, jogging and running when summer’s coming.

In order to maintain a certain weight, I am focusing on a healthy lifestyle. I cook own meals  so that I can have fresh vegetables most of the day, which I won’t eat much if I go to a restaurant in Australia and normally I drink plenty of water instead of soft drink( no, I don’t drink at all.)

An ideal me
At the beginning of this year, I had a lesson: design a life you love.

I was asked: what was the ideal you?

I told myself : I wanna to be elegant, looks nice.

I used to never care about shoes and bags, only spent money carelessly for buying heaps of clothes, then there was no enough room to store them.

Now, I realize that good quality leather shoes and leather bags are essential for matching up clothes, which will make me look much better.

Therefore, I bought fewer clothes, with a certain amount of money, I bought Italy-made shoes and bags, a very good one can last forever, and it will never out of date.

So actually, I don’t have to buy each year.

I don’t jealous someone who is driving a BMW as I don’t drive at all, so that's not what I want.

But I do spoil myself for buying 1 luxury thing each year,eg, a designed Italy-made leather bag , a wallet or a belt, just for making myself look good and feel good.

Now in my 40s, I have more confidence than I was in my 20s.


When I open up wechat nearby for writing purpose, there are more than 300 requests for friends, though I have accepted a very limited number as I don’t like people who only care about my profile photo.

However, nice photos do matter as it is your first impression to others and it represents your lifestyle, what kind of people you are.

Even in real life, I am very proud that I could be still sought after in my 40s, it is not like years ago what people in China called mature age ladies: “Old Cabbage Skin”.

No, I don’t feel like in that way, so rude and discouraging for women.

yes, you can be a better version of yourself

Therefore, how to build up yourself to be a marvelous one, it doesn’t matter who you are at the moment, it is more related to what kind of person you want to be in the future.

Please think about what you really really want, then write down and make a plan, get yourself started.

In 10 years’ time, you will be amazed that you could be so attractive for being a better version than who you are now.

I don’t know who I admire at the moment, but I do attract by some writers who get more followers than me, so I will keep writing and reading until one day, the magic happens
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Please never ever underestimate yourself, you can be the one you like.

What my next six years will be?

From the year 2010, six years have passed, to today I am who I am as used to be. If there is one thing that can describe my change, that is I become open much than before, I am doing much the things I like than before. This is well, but I didn't accomplish my task which I set six years ago. As a result, I need to change the plan,wholesale jerseys, I added a next 20 years plan in this plan, I am not sure this time, I will make it or not? But I do know that the time is precious, I must take action as soon as I can, so comes the quesiton first, what my next six years will be?

In my plan I will take two years to study accounting, because my English level is enough to fix simple problem, so I will cut down time, transfer the time into accounting study. And to get a certificate is my goal. Then I will learn marketing, I will be aware of the sectors of a company how it runs. You may ask me why I do? I just wish to have a company of my own, and it will take me to where I want.

I must make friends with experts, usually they are rich, so I must find out what they like,cheap fake oakleys, to make friends with them might be easy, or not, anyway I should try my best to be their friends. I think this is quite important, as the rich always has an sharpe insight to money. And I need to find out where they are, and what they like, and what's the conections behind me and them. So, I will build a relationship with the right person, I will figure out how to do to attract their attention and how to be their friends.

There will be wave one by one, and it's time to seize them now. My next six years will be the years of I that I study and make money and establish relationship with the rich, so let me ask myself everyday, how will I make my tomorrow better, how will I help others,cheap snapback hats, How will I be value to the society and how I make the world better.

Bye

You don't deliver pizza anymore. You've become a real man.

I've been running away from all the guesses and speculations that you are gonna be the one who died under Negan's bat,cheap nfl jerseys, though it is what happened in the comic. And I believe there're so many people who refuse to accept your death and wish for a miracle no matter what. But the day finally came, and we lost one of our favorite characters.

There's actually no particular reason why I like you so much, or I just don't know since when you've become irreplaceable in this series. People, all the audiences, we fighted with you, we sought for hope with you. I still remember my first glimpse of you in the first episode —— it was definitely a surprise, then you started to show your courage, smartness, kindness... step by step, you've become a man that totally can be relied on, and of course, you are a perfect partner for Maggie.

I know there's no magic in this show, so you won't come back to life like John Snow. So many people have been gone for good, cheap hats, but this is the one that hurts the most. You deserve a better ending. You should be one of the team members who fight with Rick till the very last moment. Rick needs you. Maggie needs you. Your baby needs you. The audiences need you.

The nightmare

Japs broke into my house!
I suddenly opened my eyes, grabbed my clothes, locked the door and hid in my wardrobe. I heard the noise they made. They were breaking everything they could, tables,nfl jerseys cheap, chairs, windows--. They were laughing like devils. I was so scared that my body shook unconsciously. The Japs would search the second floor soon enough and found me very soon!
Many terrible scenes flashed through my mind. Tears leaped from my eyes
and I even couldn't breathe. "What can I do?" I asked myself. "I have to calm down. Father and mother would help me. " I took a deep breath and tried my best to release myself. And gradually my body didn't shake. Suddenly, I remembered there was a rope in my room and I could go outside by it. Without delay, I found the rope and tied one end of it at a firm place and then I began to slip. When I touched the earth, I really relieved.
"BA GA YA LU." A Jap was running towards me! A cold sweat broke out on the back of my neck and my heart was in my mouth! My brain was blank but my body made the right choice.RUN! I just ran without any direction.I ran across the streets,cheap hats, through the bridges--
"It's time to get up. " My mother came in my room. "Your face is pale, daring, what's the matter" "I did a nightmare." I answered, " because yesterday papa forced me to watch a documentary about Nanjing Massacre."
How I appreciate the peaceful life I have!

Nanjing's Traffic Situation

     As we all know, with the development of modern technology, car is more and more common. Therefore, cheap nfl hats, there is no doubt that the traffic congestion is becoming more and more a headache for the city governors. What's more, in my mind, Nanjing as a big city, it has the following traffic problems.
     First, in Nanjing, road structure is not reasonable. There are more main roads than road branch. So the traffic is very crowded in some roads. Second, inadequate construction of public traffic is a big problem. Third, it's difficult to park because there are many motor vehicles. Fourth, the transport system is not perfect and citizens' security consciousness needs to be improved.
     In views of these traffic problems, I think the following measures can be taken.
     Firstly. The governors can design the city roads rationally and pour attention into constructing the road branch. Thereafter, they can expedite the construction of public traffic. In addition, to learn from other cities, such as Beijing and Shanghai. They can use technology to improve the usage rate of parking lots. Finally, they should improve citizens' security consciousness to reduce illegalsituations.
     In a word, if the governors can take some reasonable measures,replica oakley sunglasses, I think the traffic situation will be better.

What parents do is more important than what they say

My attention was usually drawn to big news when I was watching the news on the internet. Today, however,nfl jerseys china, a piece of small news caught my sight. In the news, a little boy threw a milk box out of the car when his father was driving the car. What will you do if your child does the same thing as this boy? Will you directly drive the car away as if you didn’t see it? Or, perhaps, you even won’t notice these small things. But what this father had done was the wisest choice. He immediately pulled over the car, got out of it and picked the box up. The video didn’t show us what the father said to his child after he got into the car. But I hold the view that what he had done was much better than what he said.
Someone once said that parents are the first and best teachers of their children. I partly agree with him. Before going to school, children virtually spend all their time with their parents. Thus, parents can have a huge influence on them, both good and bad. Hardly can you imagine a father preaching at his child all the time in everyday life. Children are too young to understand what you mean. On the contrary, teaching them by doing things in person is much effective because children are good at imitating their parents’ behavior, though they might not know why. But this can affect them deeply and this effect lasts for their whole life without a doubt. Obviously, cheap Oakley sunglasses, this father set a good example for his child and other parents.

why you are not happy

Lisa is a very sweet pretty traditional Asian girl. One day, she met a handsome young Aussie gentleman Peter at a party.

Lisa was fascinated as Peter was exactly what she imagined perfect boyfriend type: good looking, nfl jerseys china, tall, attractive, kind and polite, especially he understands Chinese Confucius.

Lisa dreamed one day if they could marry, how wonderful that would be, Peter has western appearance with Chinese mind.

Excellent!! Peter understands Chinese culture; he might get along very well with Lisa’s parents.

Though Lisa was a very popular girl, she was only crazy about Peter by ignoring all the other guys.

Meanwhile, Lisa and Peter did develop a good relationship.

Lisa gave Peter so much love with her heart, she could do anything for Peter and she cared about him more than herself, cheap Oakley sunglasses, what a nice girl!!

However, Peter was not what Lisa imagined a traditional Chinese man inside, he still has western mind.

Especially, Peter couldn’t make commitment to a marriage at such an early age as he hasn’t found a proper job without completing a Uni degree.

They had cultural conflicts in various ways, in the end, the relationship stopped.

Lisa was hurt and heart broke as she spent a lot of time and effort on Peter but she couldn’t get what she wanted.

Life is variable; it is not always like a fairy tale story- happy ending.

You can only regard it as life experience, growing up with someone and learning things together.

If you have high expectation, you think you can win someone by giving up yourself, give your 100% love and try to change the other side, that would only give you disappointment because setting a goal on a person is very unrealistic, cheap nfl hats, you can’t control it, which will only give you tremendous pain, frustration and upset.

Please change it, set a goal on your hobbies and interests, on the way you pursue your dream, you will have more chance meet someone amazing.

I love what Anthony Robbins said:

As long as we structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, then we will experience pain.

You make a rule unachievable

My brother, Tom was planning keeping fit, when his friend told him: “If you buy a one year gym membership, replica oakley sunglasses, you can get discount price, and also it won’t be charged if you go on holidays.”

What a good bargain!!!

Tom made a rule: “I won’t waste membership; I must do gym at least 45minutes/day”.

To start with, Tom was very excited and energetic; he put photos on the wechat to show his friends that he’s doing gym.

I was also very proud of him: “Wow, excellent. Keep going; please do not stop.”

After a couple of months, I could’t see the posting, I called Tom: “Hey, are you still doing gym?”

“No, I stopped.” Tom was not happy.

“Really,how could be?”

“My legs were really sore after gym, I was worn out. The following day, I couldn’t stand still, even couldn’t walk properly, I was nearly sick, no, gym is not for me.”

“Hang on, how can you get such a conclusion so early?”

“Can you change your rule make it achievable, why don’t you do 10 minutes, then you can add time gradually once you are used to it. That’s what exactly I did.” I replied.

“Well, you know, I have to drive to the gym place, find a parking space and pay for the fee which also cost money, only 10 minutes, it’s not worth.”

Now, I understand Tom’s problem, as he hasn’t done exercise for years, to start with, he set up standard too high, nfl jerseys cheap, and he couldn’t reach it, which frustrated and discouraged him so much.

Then he found a lot of excuses for not doing gym.

Actually, it is quite simple, change your rule, set it easier to achieve.

If you can do it 10min or 20min per time, you will enjoy it and really happy about your achievement.

Once you have developed a good habit, it will boost your self-confidence.

If one day, you don’t do it, you feel like something missing in your life. In the end, you find you love gym so much you could not live without it.

After you have built up a solid foundation, it’s very easy to move on, 30min, 40min, or even more.

One day, you will be very proud: “What a surprise, I have been doing gym for 5 years, you see my selfie on the wechat with such amazing body.”

Therefore, no matter what you are doing, please make it achievable at the beginning.

At this stage, self-confidence is more important than whether you've acheived your ultimate goal or not.

You must make yourself feel good, if you are not happy about what you are doing, it is very easy to give up at the beginning because you can’t reach the goal you set up.

Again you may also like what Anthony Robbins said: You could be winning and feel like you're losing because the scorecard you're using is unfair.

only focus on the results, not really enjoy process

When I was learning "Admin Management" at the Uni of ECNU in China, cheap hats, I was not that happy, as I only focused on the results which could help me win scholarship from Latrobe Uni in Australia.

Though I have got very high marks in some subjects, but I tried to compete with someone who got a few marks higher than me. I blamed myself why I was so careless, why I didn’t check clearly.

No matter how high marks I've got, I was not totally satisfied, as I was stuck on a few marks I missed to make it 100% correct, which stressed me a lot.

I even didn't know what knowledge I've obtained that time because I only focused on the skills how to pass the exams in order to be the top student in the class.

Now I will only spend money on things which make me grow and enjoy, I don’t care how long it takes to reach the destination, I will pay more attention on the journey.

It's just like my writing, if I only focus on how many followers I've got, whether I can make money out of it or not, then I will never be happy.

Because if I compare with some professional ones with 100,000+ readers, then I might have to stop writing.

I just enjoy writing at the moment, even if no one read, I will still keep writing, because it's a way I can improve English, cheap mlb jerseys, and through writing, I am improving myself by reading more books and also I can make nice friends who cares my writing.

Therefore, set up a goal as a direction for pointing out which way I should go, make sure I won't go to the wrong place. Most important thing is that I enjoy interesting things happen on the way to the final destination.

So, I don't care how long it takes because I enjoy every moment for what I am doing.